[Selphos]

I've had this idea in my head for a couple weeks now but I've been too lazy to put it into action...
I know the BL had a thread that spun off into this kind of thing but this is more serious.

The premise of this thread is simple. Men, ask the ladies anything you've been wondering about female behavior, fashion, socialization, whatever. Ladies, same for men. If you REALLY want you can ask your own sex some questions. And make sure we actually get some answers, not just an endless stream of questions. Everyone has to be wondering something, because if you can tell me you understand the opposite sex perfectly, I'll just call you a liar.

In terms of regulations on questions, please refrain from any thinly veiled insults, generalizations, or blatantly vulgar questions. For example, "Why are men such pigs?" or "Why do women get jobs when they could be busy making me sandwiches?" is not a valid inquiry. If you don't think you should say it, you probably shouldn't.

I'll start with a fairly common question. Ladies, do you look forward to having children? Specifically, the actual process of pregnancy and childbirth?

[Cluemily]

To be honest, I am constantly changing my mind on the idea of child birth, but then again, I have quite a while to go before I believe I'd even think of harbouring a new life to welcome into the world. It sounds like a task which would be worth it after it was all over, with the childbirth part. Most whom I listen to rattle on about their pregnancies (mainly my mother, auntie and stepmother) say it's the childbirth that gets you, but the pregnancy stage is a breeze. Other people have other opinions on the matter, so it's interesting just to think how I myself would handle it. But I do look forward to it one day. But this concept of adoption has constantly appealed to me, so there's always room to try both methods of raising a child.

Now, I've always been curious on the matter of men and how competitive they are around friends. I've been told some guys will race to see who can give a pint of blood first. But overall, I'm curious as to how competitive men can be / get. I've seen some try to hold out while eating a habanero chilli, but it wasn't like I planned to walk up and ask 'How competitive are you trying to be around friends?'
I'm terrible at this. Kinda regret posting this. But oh well.

[Rinta_02]

Nope.

I don't get along with children, and the thought of carrying one around inside me for 9 months and gong through the painful process of childbirth does not appeal to me. Then again I'm 14 .__.

[LilMissTiffie33]

I would love to have a child (when Im older of course). But the thought of the pain makes me cringe. I do not look forward to giving birth at all. haha
Hmm. My question for the men, Would you like it better to have a woman who is independent or do you like the idea of taking care of them?
I, myself, like being independent but its nice to have help every now and then. :]

[Pomelo]

Selphos, on 16 November 2011 - 06:51 PM, said:

I'll start with a fairly common question. Ladies, do you look forward to having children? Specifically, the actual process of pregnancy and childbirth?

Ugh, no. I hate kids and I can never imagine pouring the rest of my life into someone else. Not to mention I can barely take care of myself.

That and the idea of pregnancy sickens me. It's so parasitic.

If I were ever to have a kid, I'd probably adopt.


Guys: How would you describe the sensation of getting kicked in the balls? And don't just say "IT HURTS!" because that's obvious enough.

[Ryo]

The balls?
To explain this, I need some rope, a hell of a lot of gum, a little brother to point and laugh, and a speeding train. I'll let your mind wander

It varies from man to man, some more sensitive then others though, despite you telling me not to, it hurts. A lot. I would say I would rather shove a pencil in my hand then get kicked in the groin.

Lame answer, I know. I'm tired but it's something that just... you can't explain without screaming in agony and rolling around.

[Traumatic-Desire]

Cluemily, on 16 November 2011 - 07:05 PM, said:

Now, I've always been curious on the matter of men and how competitive they are around friends.

I, myself, am not all that competitive. This is mostly in part because I tend to have a "come what may" attitude toward situations. Nonetheless, that doesn't mean I never get competitive. For example, my buds and I always try to out smart each other in our Japanese class, just to see who can get the highest grade. It's all in good fun, and it doesn't hurt academically. As far as sports and things of that nature, I couldn't care less.~ ;o

LilMissTiffie33, on 16 November 2011 - 07:26 PM, said:

My question for the men, Would you like it better to have a woman who is independent or do you like the idea of taking care of them?

For me, relationships need to have a balance between both individuals, a harmony if you will. Though I do prefer a more strong willed, independent woman, I don't want her to be so independent that it gives the impression that I'm no longer needed. On the other hand, I don't want someone who is completely helpless, even when it comes to simple situations, and requires me to make all the decisions for her. I do tend to be the hopeless romantic type, so I tend to be very lovey and will gladly be nurturing. Though, there's a point where one needs to draw the line and look at whether they're being nurturing or being taken advantage of. Like I said before, there needs to be harmony.~ ;o

Pomelo, on 16 November 2011 - 08:05 PM, said:

Guys: How would you describe the sensation of getting kicked in the balls? And don't just say "IT HURTS!" because that's obvious enough.

It's more of a pressure sensation in your chest and head. Typically I feel like throwing up after the fact, or feel extremely dizzy and faint. Then of course there's the obvious response that, "your junk hurts like hell", but that's besides the point.~ ;o

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My questions for the women are: What's your take on fashion? Do you like to follow trends and keep up to date with the latest apparel. Do brand names affect how you shop for clothing?~ Such generic questions, but I'm curious.~

[Bernkastel]

Cluemily, on 16 November 2011 - 05:05 PM, said:

Now, I've always been curious on the matter of men and how competitive they are around friends. I've been told some guys will race to see who can give a pint of blood first. But overall, I'm curious as to how competitive men can be / get. I've seen some try to hold out while eating a habanero chilli, but it wasn't like I planned to walk up and ask 'How competitive are you trying to be around friends?'
I'm terrible at this. Kinda regret posting this. But oh well.

Aside from being competitive on a personality level, it's mostly due to testosterone levels. Some guys will go to incredible lengths to impress their friends, and especially gals, by doing stupid things. Some are smarter and won't cave in to doing dumb challenges. I'm more reasonable, but if there's not any significant harm that can be done, I'm all for taking a challenge from my friends since it's all in good fun.

LilMissTiffie33, on 16 November 2011 - 05:26 PM, said:

Hmm. My question for the men, Would you like it better to have a woman who is independent or do you like the idea of taking care of them?

This might be a biased answer for me, because I looooooooooove to spoil a girlfriend. I always treat them like a queen. Sometimes I think I go overboard... >.>

But I like a nice balance. The best from both worlds. I'd definitely lean more towards an independent side. I don't mind clingy/needy chicks. It can get tiring, or even irritating when they need you around ALL the time for every single little thing though. I like having some space and solitude here and there, but I don't mind doing activities and things with a gal, even if I won't really enjoy it as much as they will. Independent gals are usually much more low maintenance, which is a major plus for me. That and they don't get angry when you go somewhere without them.

Pomelo, on 16 November 2011 - 06:05 PM, said:

Guys: How would you describe the sensation of getting kicked in the balls? And don't just say "IT HURTS!" because that's obvious enough.

I've been hit by a tennis ball being shot out of an air-pressured cannon directly to the balls. It's not fun.

It's an immediate pain in your lower abdominal area. It's hard to describe, something like a very painful pressure-like sensation. It spreads all the way up your body from your balls, to your abdomen, your stomach, and chest areas. You get a very nasty puking sensation as well as shortness of breath. You'd probably keel over instantly too. The sensation lingers too and it's not pleasant at all. I don't know how any guy could be into ballbusting, it's terrible.

I can't really think of a good question at the moment to be honest. I'll probably come back if I do think up a good one.

[Princess Daisy]

@Traumatic-Desire I personally tend to shop around for the kinds of clothes I like. When I find it, I tend to lean towards the brand it's from and see what else they have.

@Zero I have never been approached by a guy, but I prefer people to make the first move because I'm pretty shy and tend to want to be confronted rather than come up with something to say.

Yet another question for men. This one's a bit personal, so don't answer it if it makes you uncomfortable.

I've kinda wondered about wet dreams. What usually happens when you have one? When do you have them?

[MsConstantine]

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Ladies, do you look forward to having children? Specifically, the actual process of pregnancy and childbirth?

Personally, I really look forward to having children (when my career, home, and marraige have been established of course). I've always had an extremely overactive nurturing instinct, and I just adore children! (Yes, I get as irritated as the next person when there's a screaming child throwing a tantrum, but I get pissed at the parents, not the kid, since it's entirely their fault.) I also look forward to the pregnancy itself. My friends who have already had children (that makes me feel incredibly old...) have said it's one of the most magical times of their lives, and there are no words to describe the level of intimacy with a life literally growing inside of you.(Though I'm not excited for the last trimester where things get shot to hell and back with raging hormones and the inability to put on your own socks) And as for the whole birth thing, hell no. A C-section thank you and pass the morphine please.

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My questions for the women are: What's your take on fashion? Do you like to follow trends and keep up to date with the latest apparel. Do brand names affect how you shop for clothing?~ Such generic questions, but I'm curious.~

I've never personally been a slave to fashion. I wear a little bit of everything. Whatever speaks to me really.

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Do you like being approached by guys because it's manly for them to do so or is it that you're just shy?

In my experience, I've liked men to approach me first because it shows that they're confident. Confidence is attractive.

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Guys: When you where younger, did you really pick on girls because you liked them? (I've heard this sooo many times, but I'm not sure if it's just an old wives-tale.)

[Bernkastel]

TheLadyoftheleek, on 16 November 2011 - 07:56 PM, said:

I've kinda wondered about wet dreams. What usually happens when you have one? When do you have them?

It's pretty much like fapping in your sleep, minus the fapping and just having the orgasm. It's more along the lines of pre-cum during sex; you can't control it at all. From my understanding, the longer you go without fapping, the more likely you are to have a wet dream because your body needs a way to get rid of excess sperm. I'm a healthy guy and I fap a good amount (because lawllibido), so I rarely ever experience wet dreams. I have like twice in the past year and it's a really random thing to wake up to lol. But yeah, just like when a guy masturbates, you ejaculate, but since you've kept it pent up for so long, chances are you're going to cum a lot more than you usually do. Some guys wake up to a mess and don't even recall having sexy dreams.

MsConstantine, on 16 November 2011 - 07:57 PM, said:

Guys: When you where younger, did you really pick on girls because you liked them? (I've heard this sooo many times, but I'm not sure if it's just an old wives-tale.)

Light teasing and poking fun, sure. But I never did it in a mean-spirited or bully-like demeanor. That's just not in me. I know a lot of kids who did it though. Hell, I still see it happen from time to time with older guys, but that's a bit more rare.

[Pomelo]

Traumatic-Desire, on 16 November 2011 - 08:35 PM, said:

My questions for the women are: What's your take on fashion? Do you like to follow trends and keep up to date with the latest apparel. Do brand names affect how you shop for clothing?~ Such generic questions, but I'm curious.~

I like fashion. It's not something I'd consider a hobby where I'm super into couture or sewing or something, but I appreciate cute girls in cute clothes, and naturally I want to look good too.

...Of course, this doesn't mean I'll automatically wear anything that's popular/fashionable at the moment!
I wear what I like to as well, but I try to do so in a way that looks good. Ex: I will never be caught dead in overalls or jumpers, even if they're ever popular.

Brands? Not really that important to me.
There are some places that I really like to shop (like Forever 21 or H&M), but if you mean something like Chanel or D&G...then I don't give two shits about that.
In fact, I think it's kinda silly to spend like $200 on a little purse with some letters on it for status when you can buy so much more. (But hey, not my money so w/e)

Another thing I don't like are brands like A&F or Hollister. Mainly because their clothes and kinda plain and kinda expensive (again, don't really see the point of spending like over $50 for a plain sweater that just says HOLLISTER on it)...plus I've never been a fan of large names/logos/words on clothing anyway.

Zero, on 16 November 2011 - 08:50 PM, said:

1/10th of giving birth.


Girls: Do you like being approached by guys because it's manly for them to do so or is it that you're just shy?

I'm super shy and unconfident so I will never ever approach anyone. I'm also really submissive, haha. So yeah, I definitely appreciate someone coming up to me and taking the initiative. Unless it's creepy.

Ex. Shouting, "HEY! HEY THERE PRETTY GIRL! WANNA GET A DRINK?" while as I pass you on the street = NG

[Kartoffel-Chan]

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Ladies, do you look forward to having children? Specifically, the actual process of pregnancy and childbirth?

Hm, I'm torn on this due to my overall health. I'm afraid that I would miscarry of kill the child somehow by accident, and I couldn't cope with that thought. Childbirth pain is said to exceed the amount of pain an average human body can take but oddly enough if it went all right[As in I was healthy and Baby was healthy] I'd deal with the pain.


Don't forget there's also the tearing that can occur down there. Yikes!

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My questions for the women are: What's your take on fashion? Do you like to follow trends and keep up to date with the latest apparel. Do brand names affect how you shop for clothing?~

I'll just say I wear what I like and I tend to stay away from places/brands that sell clothes that either fall apart after a few wears or become a shrinky-dink in the dryer, lol


Although I love Old Navy to death...

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Do you like being approached by guys because it's manly for them to do so or is it that you're just shy?

In my experience only creepers and one cute guy ever approached me irl, sooooo~


I don't have a question yet, lol

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