Posted 08 January 2012 - 12:17 PM
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, next question?
Seriously though, the "jock" phenomenon that populates most of North American pre-college society originated this stigma. Due to the high amount of persecuted puritans when the continent was first colonized there was this enormous pressure towards the "men work and women stay at home" idea. This eventually turned into the whole "your not a man if you can't perform (not just sexually)", and all these idealism of how men should be generated an enormous amount of homophobic behavior, which made parents put pressure on their children to perform well in school to appear manly. So boys had to do manly stuff like sports and other similar activities which created the whole "jock" category in the first place. Now this pressure put on school kids by their parents ends up making a lot of them lie or become very vocal about their sexual life as to add to their manly repertoire and due to insecurities generated by previously mentioned pressure from parents, they end up making fun of the other boys who are not so vocal about their sexual lives.
Now I'm not saying this is a problem only in North America, all of these issues mentioned generated due to Christianity (not saying religion is bad, but it does have its side-effects), but due to the puritan nature of the settlers who originally colonized North America it's much more rampant there.
Here's is my opinion on all this (including your original statement):
Sex is good. It feels good, both during and after. But this is due to how our body is programmed, we are programmed to seek out sex and enjoy sex. Sure we have a brain that can ignore some of the pre-programmed functions, and certain traumas or fears can override these urges. But I tell you right now, there is nothing more comforting than laying with someone you like. I'm not trying to put pressure on you to have sex, but I find it extremely frustrating that you criticize something that you have no experience in, there is a term for that and that term is "ignorant". I'm not attacking you, I'm just stating facts. It is your choice to stay a virgin and I have no right to judge, hell I even respect that.
Now in response to some of the other comments in here. It is my honest opinion that having more experience, knowledge and self-esteem than others does make you better than them. I wholeheartedly agree with the concept that everyone deserves the same respect, but you can still be better than other people. Sex is an experience, you learn from that experience about yourself and other people. I will however add that being a virgin longer than the standard amount of time gives you a unique perspective on life but I believe it is an inferior one. We humans are social creatures, we learn more and thrive in social environments. Abstaining from having sex is one way of cutting yourself from a deep and meaningful connection with other people.
Wow looks like I rambled for a while there, just to mention this again this post has no ill-will towards anyone in this thread, and it was not my intention to attack anyone and I apologize if it appears that way.
Anyway, live your lives like you want to, but don't be afraid to experience new things ^^